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Do Souls Plan How Their Parents Will Treat Them?
I recently finished reading Robert Schwartz’ book on pre-birth planning. One thing it says in the book is that souls plan/discuss things in their pre-birth planning sessions that go beyond particular challenges. Do souls plan their up-bringing, what it will be like etc? (I know we choose our parents.) I want to know this because I suffer from cronic anxiety and worry about the way in which children are treated by their parents when growing up. I am aware that my anxiety is something that was also pre-planned and yet I wonder why I might have chosen this particular thing to worry about, along with some other things.
Answer: We make soul level agreements with other souls to play the roles of father, mother and so on. Many times we do this because we know what they are working on will provide us with the kind of experience that would redirect us back to ourselves as source of emotional health, well-being and truth. The more times a soul has planned a life experience whereby it might learn something about itself and become more balanced and authentically expressed but does not accomplish the learning intended, the more likely the soul will then plan a harsh and more difficult life experience with more unhappiness and suffering in hopes that the personality would then be more strongly motivated and more likely to learn the lesson(s) inherent in the experience, thus making the breakthrough and shift in consciousness it desires.
A large part of the reason we put ourselves through the Human Evolutionary Path is to learn to let go of fear and to learn to love unconditionally. That you have a challenge with anxiety means there is fear that you are hanging on to and your soul is calling it to your conscious attention so you can deal with it – learn from it, dissolve it, thus bring balance to your soul.
It is wonderful to work with children and to do something for them on their behalf when they can’t yet do it for themselves. If that is what you feel called to do then by all means do it. If instead your anxiety about the treatment and well-being of children is going nowhere and you are not acting on it in any way, then it’s time to take a magnifying lens to that aspect of yourself and find out why it exists. A Pre-Birth Planning Reading would give us the opportunity to explore this together.
Could Sexual Abuse Be Planned Before Birth?
I experienced several episodes of sexual abuse and rape, a victim of 4 abusers until I was 18 years old. When I came forward about it I was shunned by all that “loved” me. I am now 30 years old and I have yet to have an actual loving relationship. The only boyfriend I ever had treated me like sex was my job and so I broke up with him. Recently a 60 year old friend of my father’s approached me about having a “secret arrangement.” I turned him down, but it really makes me wonder if I am here to learn some sort of lesson about sexual abuse or if I’m here to be used/abused/taken advantage of by others, because I seem to draw those types of people to me without trying and I seem to “chase” the nice ones away. Is it really possible that something like this can be PLANNED before birth?
Answer: Yes, this kind of experience can certainly be one that is planned during a pre-birth planning session. A Pre-Birth Planning Reading would be very helpful in discovering why this has happened in your own life. Something I can say about it at this point is that it seems to me that at least part of the reason your soul might have planned this is to give you an experience designed to redirect you back to yourself as “Source” – source of your own emotional well-being and happiness, and possibly also to have the circumstances that would help you enrich the relationship with yourself and strengthen the connection to who you really are. Perhaps learning to love yourself unconditionally is another piece of karma you’re working with. (These are just a few of the 9 basic Karmic Lessons in the Human Evolutionary Path that my Spirit Guide has taught me about.) I am glad you are staying strong and not going for the types of relationships that are less than fully satisfying and appreciative of who you are. Keep up the good work on that.
Is Bariatric Surgery a Cheat?
When people come in with that really tough life challenge of over-indulgence and over-impulsivity and have a food addiction and have struggled with no success their whole life – is it a “cheat” or a “failure” to do a gastric bypass to eliminate the weight that causes the person health problems? Like in my situation, I do sooooo much spiritual work, exercise, 12-step rehab program, every diet known to man and have focused-on self-growth. Does that gastric bypass interfere with the lesson? Or is it a “gift of unconditional compassion/love” one gives to themself as self-acceptance and love?
Answer: Bariatric surgery, whether it’s by balloon, staple or one of the bypass types, is a good tool but it doesn’t do it for you. There’s no doubt it can be a life changing procedure and for some people it’s a very effective tool. Other people will still find a way to cheat and give in to temptation, and eat more than is recommended often and long enough to effectively stretch what remains of their stomach. Others seem to drop the first 50 pounds quickly and easily but the last 50 pounds never leaves. So the truth of the matter is that while bariatric surgery can induce significant metabolic changes, you still have to do all the personal work on a physical and emotional level. All the work it takes to stick to what can be a highly restrictive diet over a long period of time, plus commitment to more and/or regular exercise. And all the work it takes at the internal level emotionally. So I don’t see bariatric surgery as a cheat any more than taking supplements like chromium, cinnamon, green tea, saffron or the prescription drug Metformin. These things can be effective tools but you are still the tool operator and it’s up to you how well you make use of the tool.
Did my Soul Group make a decision without my knowledge or consent?
I have chronic suicidal depression. A local healer/dowser told me that the origin of my problem is in the life between lives. A decision was made without my knowledge, is that possible? Is is possible that my soul group made a decision without my consent?
Answer: I’ve been asking my Spirit Guide “what are the soul level reasons why?” for over 40 years and I’ve never once been told or otherwise discovered that a decision was made in the life-between-lives space or in the pre-birth planning session without the consent of the entity or entities involved. So while it’s possible there is pre-birth planning session information to discover that is connected with your depression in this lifetime, it is very difficult for me to believe or otherwise accept that it has anything to do with decisions made without your knowledge or consent. That just feels patently wrong, in my honest opinion, and makes you into a victim rather than empowering you with the true “why” of it all and giving you a sense of how to put your best foot forward for a more satisfying and fulfilling life in the future.
More Accurate In-Person or by Phone?
Is a reading more accurate in-person than over the phone?
Answer: For me it’s just as good or better to be on the phone or Skype because I am not distracted by any visual cues from my client or other visual distractions. I feel it enhances what’s been described as my “laser-like focus”. ALL of the readings I did for the book Your Soul’s Plan were done over the phone – with the exception of the reading with Penelope, the girl who was born deaf. That reading required us to use an internet instant messenger program so we could communicate by typing to each other.
Free Will or Destiny?
In the session with you I have learned that whatever happens in the future it is always for the growth of the soul, that we cannot change the event but we can change our perception and see the purpose and the hidden beauty in it; our Free Will makes all the difference so we should always be in harmony with our inner truth and have love in our heart. Is there no Destiny, only Free Will choices? – H.S.Wong, France
Answer: There actually are some things that are pre-planned to the point of being inevitable – what one might call Destiny or Fate – but not everything. Not everything is planned to that finite a degree. When we get to a point in our life where our soul planned a karmic decision point (one of those “either-or” or “fork in the road” situations), what the personality decides in that moment determines which of the predetermined paths we will follow. That is where Free Will determines the future.
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